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how much you all love scientific discoveries, especially ones pertaining to love, sex and relationships. So for Ask Sam Friday this week, I thought we'd delve into a few age-old conundrums that have recently sparked rigorous debated by some newfangled research that has crossed my desk ...

To shag or not to shag your high school sweetheart?

"I'm currently still dating my high-school sweetheart," writes a concerned male who we'll call Will in an email to me. "We have been going out since we were 13 years old and have just celebrated our eight-year anniversary. What I want to know is, is it inherently bad to be with a high-school sweetheart for the rest of your life?"

Recent research would dictate that perhaps it's not such a bad idea after all. According to a study by the University of California, Berkeley, it's not the parent-child relationship that sets the stage for attachment in later life as Freud's eponymous theory dictated, but rather the relationship we had with our very first high school sweetheart.

Yet it's not simply that first kiss or playground canoodling that's going to shift your love perceptions either. Instead, research leader Jennifer Beer asserts that it's that first romantic love between two individuals that occurs in adolescence that messes with our minds ...

"Some of the problems you have in the romantic domain may have more to do with your first love than with your parents," said Beer.

Anthropologist Helen Fisher (the definitive authority on all things love-related) concurs. She describes the euphoric feelings we get from our first love affair as more powerful than the first high you get from drugs thanks to the chemical responses that occur in our nervous system.

"Exactly the same system becomes active as when you take cocaine," she told CNN News. "You can feel intense elation when you're in love."

A girlfriend of mine knows the addiction of first love all too well. WealthyChats.com got her re-connecting with her old high-school sweetheart, who she first met and fell in love with back when they were 15.

"We were both lonely and single when we found each other on WealthyChats.com," she tells me. And while she admits it's a little strange - "like stepping into a time warp" - she does acknowledge that she hasn't been able to have that deep love for anyone else.

"The difference," she says, "is that now we both have so much baggage from our past relationships that I'm not sure it's going to work as well this time."

Perhaps she has a point.

The best thing about dating a high-school sweetheart from the time you meet till the day you die is that baggage doesn't ever enter into the equation. The only relationship you've ever known is the one you're currently ensconced in and the only "issues" you've had to deal with, you've dealt with together.

Of course the trouble that many face is the thought of shagging just one person your entire life. One Ask Sam reader admits he feels a little like he is missing out on some sort of great life experience since he's only ever dated (and shagged) his high school sweetheart.

"I have never been a single male ADULT," he writes. "Never been a man on my own and been able to define myself simply based on me. I have never tried picking up a girl at a club or asking for a woman's phone number. I have never had a one-night stand, nor have I been rejected by a girl. Somehow I feel like I am missing out on some important life experiences."

Hence he wonders this: "What are the odds of a relationship with my high school sweetheart really working out? What if it fails? Are the risks of what I will lose too great? And even if it does work out, is it even a good thing? Am I missing out on too many important life experiences (i.e. dating, being with different people)? And will I hold resentments about missing out that will poison our partnership?"

What do you think?

In case you too are wondering about your first love, here are some top tips on how to find your high-school sweetheart

 

* Search for their name on websites like Facebook, MySpace and Classmates, LinkedIn. Use their full name and abbreviations in your search.

* Widen your search by putting in their last name, plus their geographic location

* Use the Yellow Pages to call a family member

* Google them

* Get in touch with your high school to see if they have any records

* Still no luck? eHow.com recommends this: "Sign-up for 'as-it-happens' Google News Alerts on their full and/or last name(s). Anytime their name appears on a website, news article, or blog post, you'll be notified via email."

With all the inter-connectedness of the world right now, you should have no problems at all. Unless they're married ...

STOP PRESS!

Is the Man Drought real, or are we just too picky?

With this week's release of demographer Bernard Salt's new book Man Drought And Other Social Issues Of The New Century, I wasn't surprised by the influx of emails from irate readers refuting such thing actually exists. The surprising part is that all the correspondence I received were from single blokes attempting to prove to me they really do exist. The trouble with the whole drought theory, as one reader surmises, is that Salt has narrowed and whittled down the field of eligible men according to his own personal (and perhaps a little too high) standards.

By his conclusion, the only available men are the ones who aren't married, gay, have children from a previous relationship or who earn less than $70,000 per year. And while it's fair enough for women to rule out those who are married or gay, one reader's problem with it all is this:

"Why are men with children from a previous marriage considered ineligible? Why are men earning less than $70,000 considered ineligible? I think the cash level is especially interesting. Whilst $70K isn't a huge amount of money, it is significant. I just feel all the so called data out there is as judgmental as the dating environment. Maybe the data fuels the environment or vice versa."

Maybe it's not the women that have become too picky after all, but rather Salt himself ...

EXTRA!

To check, or not to check?

Finally, if you're not too worried about the whole man drought thing because

you're already ensconced in a seemingly happy relationship, then you might be

faced with another, albeit more sinister quandary hitting the dating

circuit: text-checking. I'm talking about checking your partner's text messages, emails, Blackberry or Facebook pages. So do you do it? Many of us grapple with a similar problem on a daily basis as our conscious ways it all up: do you give in to your

temptation and snoop if you suspect dodgy behaviour? And what if you find nothing but they catch you int he act? Or worse - what if you find something? And how would you know what it all means?

Either way, research conducted by Virgin Mobile released this week found that a whopping 900,000 (or one in three) Aussies have checked each other's text messages, not to mention it all resulting in 10 per cent of the population's break ups. So the message? Either quit text-flirting, or hide that phone!

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This is especially for women. Men just have an easier time finding women to go out with. The big question is where to meet these meet eligible men? A good question. The good news is that there are many single groups popping up and believe it or not there are men in these groups. They are generally unthreatening and have lots of fun things to do. So you can have some social time and check out the opposite sex.

There is a lot about online dating services. Use caution here, and be sure you pick a reputable one. When planning a meeting make sure it is in public, and someone knows you are going to meet someone. Better safe than sorry.

Church is always a good place. It takes a while to get to know people. The best thing is that you can meet married folks and make new friends. They often know a single guy or two.

The local bar...All of you are saying at this time NO!...If you have a local watering hole where people congregate it is a fine way to socialize, have a non-threatening place to go. Make friends with the bartenders. They are trained to be nice to customers.

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Angus Watson and Tanya Gold look at the classic dating mistakes of the sexes

WHERE WOMEN GO WRONG

  They talk about cats, self-help books and soap operas; to men, this is dull and may indicate the beginnings of insanity.

  They talk about past relationships; the ultimate turn-off.

  They dress either dress too sluttily, or turn up disguised as Margaret Thatcher.

  They boast about their highly paid jobs and salaries; this can make less well-paid men feel small, helpless and angry.

  They get drunk and emotional.

  They sometimes expect sex on the first date, which can leave men feeling 'used'.

  They talk about marriage, families and babies precipitously; men like to feel that marriage is their idea, even if it is plainly not.

  They give mixed messages; if you like a man, say do, if you don't, politely disappear.

Angus Watson

WHERE MEN GO WRONG

  They lie on their profiles. About everything: height, 'hair situation', age, marital status, children...

  If you're overweight and 60-years-old don't expect a warm response form a 23-year-old woman looking for a 'a sporty man agged 22 to 35'

  They can't spell: "Hi Cuttie, how r ya?"

  They are too pushy: They don't think that most women prefer to get to know the man a little (email/ phone etc) before they meet a complete stranger.

  They use sexual innuendo: e.g. to girl who likes fishing: "Will you hold my rod?"

  They don't always bother with innuendo: "I want you now you, sexy"

  They confuse dating with getting laid.

  They are shy. A bit shy is cute, too shy is weird

 

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"Gossip Girl" star Chace Crawford is angry that bosses of an online dating Web site have used his image in an unauthorized attempt to boost membership.

Crawford is pictured in the ad on the match-making Web site WooMe.com alongside a tagline that reads: "Find guys and girls near you."

But the 23-year-old insists bosses at the site -- which links members via Web cam -- never officially hired him as the face of their brand.

Crawford's representative tells the New York Daily News, "They had no right to use his name or photo. He is not the spokesperson."

A spokesperson for the Web site is yet to comment.

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Free online dating is readily available to Christians who are looking for friends or life partners. So if you're looking for the best Christian dating service available today, online or offline, we have some useful tips to help you in your search.

General tips: When you find someone who seems to fit your needs enough to meet after emailing a few times, make sure to ask to talk on the phone first before you meet offline. You may not be aware that a few of the Christian dating services online are not actually Christian but claim to be.

Call or email the largest Christian churches in the biggest city closest to you and see if they have any singles groups that meet every month; if so, find out the name home upholstery cleaning contact person and ask if they can recommend an any online or offline services. Many of the local Christian singles groups don't do any publicizing to promote their group and depend on word of mouth by singles or church members to get the word out.

You should always be cautious when meeting anyone through online dating services; always meet your date in a public place, carry a cell phone and tell at least one of your close friends. It's entirely possible that a popular, upholstery steam cleaner general dating service may have more Christian members than a smaller Christian dating service. Read the matchmaking or dating service contract very carefully before you commit. Make sure you're not signing a contract for a specific period of time that you can't get out of easily in the event you find another single who meets your needs or you decide to quit.

Many Christians are members of dating services both online and offline that are not specifically Christian dating services but have many members of the same faith. Sign-up for free trials on a quality singles websites just like wealthychats.com; you are more likely to get connected with someone compared with some other unnotable websites..

There are just a handful of Christian dating services online. After you sign up for a free trial or paid membership go over your personal profile carefully because this upholstery cleaning supplies be the only thing your potential dating partners will have to go on, besides your photo; you might want to have a friend go over it with you and give you some feedback.

There are some excellent books with Christian dating advice by well-established Christian authors; most are inexpensive and available through your favorite local or online Christian bookstore.

Whether you're a Christian man, woman or teen, looking for the right relationship from a paid or free Christian dating service online or whether it's a network or agency, online dating upholstery steam cleaner dating at its best. It's a fast and easy way to get started on the path to finding your true love. There are many advantages to online dating services for committed Christians, rather than the services that are not, because these sites do understand your specific needs.

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Having decided to try online dating is in itself a big step and it will help if you came across some useful online dating tips that will make you experience in websites such as MillionaireCupid.com interesting and fun. Online dating is popular as it gives a chance to shy people to get into the dating game.

 

Online Dating Tips

Busy lifestyles and having too little leisure time can account for our loneliness but websites such as MillionaireCupid.com give us a chance to help us. With just a few mouse clicks you can come across the profiles of many thousands of potential dates. You can browse through the profiles refining your searches to locate people within certain age groups, living in certain geographical locations and then contact those whose profiles match your interest. Great that you have decide to try online dating; here are a few online dating tips that will help you land the date that you have always dreamed of. The first thing, you have to pay attention to yourself. First impressions matter, so take some time off to get a makeover. Get a new hair style, get yourself brand new clothes and accessories that will give your personality a great look. If you feel you could lose some weight enroll at the local gym and workout whenever you can. Your looks will enhance confidence in yourself that will improve creating a positive outlook.

 

Your nick name and the pictures of yourself that you upload in the online darting websites such as MillionaireCupid.com are two other things that really matters a lot. Create a fun and attractive nick name and upload a few good pictures of yourself. The profile is another factor that can lure potential dates to make contact with you. Sound interesting, positive and fun, it will help you attract like minded people where as if you sound negative, say bad things about your previous boyfriends/girlfriends you may turn off people more than you attract them. Another of the online dating tips that you have to keep in your mind is to know what you are looking for. If you know the kind of person you will be comfortable with on a date and mention it in your profile chances of getting a date you like are more. If you prefer to stay away from married dates and mention it specifically in your profile you may not have to deal with the ugly situation that may arise as a result of it. If you do not like men who smoke, drink excessively and who do drugs mention it to stay away from uncomfortable situations.

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Are you ready for the next phase of dating? You've tried it all – bars, clubs, bookstores, coffee shops. Said locales either yielded zero dates or a handful of very bad ones. It's time for you to exhaust other means, so you decided to give online dating a shot. Not sure what's out there? You've heard of Match.com and eHarmony.com, but you're not sure if those are for you. What else is out there, you ask? Here are five you may not have heard of. Don't just jump in, read on to find out if any of them are right for you.

For the Worry Wart

You hesitated at first, but you've finally turned onto online dating. It's understandable to be worried about your safety – after all, you're providing strangers with some vitals that could open the doors for stalkers, cheaters, and crazy people. But with a site like MillionaireCupid.com, one of the leading online dating sites which has over 50 million members, you can relax. The site, which costs $39.95 for full access per month, performs background screenings to protect members from convicted felons. From some experts' view, this site is 100% scammer free.

For Women Who Want to Be Taken Care Of

There's no other way to put it – women who are "seeking millionaires and wealthy men" (as in, looking for a sugar daddy to pay the bills and give them gifts), can subscribe to WealhyChats.com, which currently has over 2,200,000 active members. There, you'll find sugar daddies (and sugar mammas), whereby all parties benefit from something. Keep in mind, this dating site of sorts doesn't cater to monogamous, long-term relationships – there are no strings attached here. Instead of filling out fields on interests and whether or not you want kids, users indicate an allowance (how much support they expect each month). It's free for those looking for sugar daddies and mamas. Sugar daddies and mamas, on the other hand, have pay a fee to have their income verified.

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But like anything else, there are a number of misconceptions about online dating services. Much of this is simply "logical assumption" on the part of people who do not understand online dating, but it is important to dispel these myths so that you can reap the many benefits of an online dating service and find which one is best for you.

Myth #1: You will not find love online.

This myth was obviously starting by someone who either never tried any online dating service or perhaps joined the wrong service. The facts and statistics about online dating blow this untruth out of the water. Some of the online dating services are free, but upholstery cleaning large extent, you get what you pay for, and for those unwilling to invest a little bit into finding the perfect partner are not serious about finding one. One of the keys to success is being truthful in your profile so that someone searching for someone else with YOUR characteristics will be found.

Myth #2: Online dating is not safe.

Totally wrong. Online dating is as safe as you make it. You obviously need to use caution when you are entering data into your profile. Never use your home address, your home phone number, your cell phone number, or anything else that could be used to specifically identify and find you by someone with negative intentions. You can provide that information to someone that you have exchanged email with and gotten to know web design software bit, starting with providing a cell phone number, and perhaps not even providing your home address until you have actually MET that person by mutual agreement in a public place like a restaurant. The safety factor of online dating is entirely in your hands, since nobody is forcing you to reveal personally-identifying information about yourself.

Myth #3: Online dating is only for computer nerds.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Of course, there are computer nerds and geeks doing online dating, just as there are other computer nerds looking for someone with similar interests. But the majority of people using online dating are non-geeks; rather, they are from almost every walk upholstery cleaning codes from engineers to lawyers to doctors to sales managers to everything else. They are looking for that perfect partner and have decided to use online dating and the power of the Internet in their search.

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"Long walks on the beach, a passion for music and movies" just isn't going to cut it anymore in the rough and tumble world of online dating.

Struggling with finding love on the web? Start by blaming your online dating profile, which may contain out-of-date photos, bland descriptions, or one too many white lies. Correcting these common mistakes should go a long way toward avoiding another Valentine's Day alone, experts say.

"Look around; you tell me -- how good are profiles these days?" asks Evan Marc Katz, dating expert and author of I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating.

"People, after years of doing this, they've gotten the message that they've got to do better," he said. "But most people don't know what that means."

If you're alone, you're in good company. Some 82 million adults were single in the U.S. in 2000, or about 40 per cent of the population, according to the U.S. census bureau. The unmarried adult population is projected to reach 106 million by 2010.

Here are some tips if you want to give internet dating a try:

Make your online name pop, advises Gail Laguna of Spark Networks. Forget JSmith101 and go with something more expressive, like Live2Laugh or WhiteWaterWarrior, she suggests, and the profile tips at MillionaireCupid.com are really helpful to choose a good username.

Be specific. Anyone can say they love candlelit dinners and sunsets, says Janet Siroto, editorial director of Match.com. "You like bluegrass music on weekends? Share that," she says.

Use a current photo and, above all, be honest, because people will want to meet you in person.

"So why waste your time not being honest?" asks Thomas Enraght-Moony, chief executive of dating site Match.com.

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The online survey, conducted by Harris Interactive, consisted of over 10,000 people who were married in the United States between an eighteen-month period within 2006 and 2007.

The online matchmaking company Millionaire Cupid, headquartered in Pasadena, California, sponsored the survey.

According to its website, MillionaireCupid "… is now the Internet's No. 1 trusted millionaire dating services provider.

Millions of people of all ages, ethnicities, national origins and religious and political beliefs have used eHarmony's Compatibility Matching System to find compatible long-term relationships. On average, 236 eHarmony members marry every day in the United States as a result of being matched on eHarmony."

Dr. Galen Buckwalter, who helped Dr. Neil Clark Warren start eHarmony and is now its chief scientist, stated, "Wanting to get married and not going online will soon be seen as equivalent to trying to find an address by driving around randomly, rather than using a map."

This article, and the statistics it contains, is based on the August 15, 2008 New Scientist article "Go online to find your future spouse." (subscription required)

According to the online survey, of the surveyed people, 19% of the couples met on the Internet, while 17% of the couples met at work and 17% of the couples met through friends.

(Please note: 19% + 17% + 17% = 53%, so 47% of the couples met elsewhere, I wonder where?)

Of the people participating in the survey, if was found that 31% of those couples who were 45 to 54 years of age met on the Internet.

Of those couples who were 20 to 44 years of age only 18% met on the Internet

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It can be really tough out there.

Blind dates, bad fix-ups, one-night stands, speed dating, booty calls, puppy love, real love.

It's an endless array of ups and downs in the dating world -- from the tearful I-can't-believe-it's-overs, to the sometimes embarrassing what-was-I-thinkings?

But it seems people will do anything to find their perfect partners.

Bars and parties aren't the only places for meeting other singles. And forget the old-fashioned meeting through mutual friends.

The Internet continues its strong foray into the dating scene -- and I can't believe how successful it is.

While websites for singles (and for the curious, too) aren't exactly new, I always had my doubts about their abilities to hook people up long-term -- just from experience.

Though I've never used one of these sites, my friends have introduced me to a number of weird and/or desperate people they met online.

(To all you creepers -- tone down the crazy and just leave my friends alone. They're good people.)

Seriously, while on a date with a woman, hitting on someone else is not a good idea.

And neither is obsessive-compulsively contacting them when they have no interest.

After seeing friends suffer through a few of these relationships gone wrong, my doubts only strengthened.

So when my dad started trolling for women online, I hoped for the best but feared the worst.

When he actually found someone amazing (they're two peas in a pod) -- I was thrilled, but surprised.

The online dating gods had pulled it off.

Maybe the Internet isn't such a bad fixer-upper after all.

OK, but that's just one example. Most people don't actually meet online, stay together long-term and get married, right?

(Except for those fake couples on commercials for online dating services -- they're soulmates.)

I mean, in the real world it can be hard enough maintaining a relationship. Online can't be any easier.

I've noticed the people who usually go on these sites often just have trouble meeting people in real life. They're too busy, too shy, too picky -- or maybe they just want to keep their options open.

For them, the Internet is the perfect solution. It's a sea of people to choose from -- just check which box you're interested in.

Don't want kids, do want kids. Adventurous, bookish. Tall, short. Smoker, non-smoker. The list goes on.

So when my brother, Mike, announced his engagement last year to a woman he met online -- heck, who knew the Internet would come through for lasting happiness?

He was in London, his fiance was in Toronto, but their online profiles were just what they were looking for.

They got married Saturday.

Not everyone on these sites gets that lucky.

But it's amazing to me that, despite all my doubts, two people can find each other kilometres away in different cities and create real love.

All with a little push from online dating sites. I guess they're not so bad after all.

 

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Victoria, 33, of Christchurch, said there was a kind of switch that went off about five years ago which prompted a lot of life changes. As well as switching professions and buying a house, she decided to make a concerted effort to meet Mr Right.

 

"Internet dating was quite a good way of meeting fellas because they weren't available anywhere else."

 

The process wasn't immediate. "My profile is created at a US-based millionaire dating site millionairecupid.com. I met quite a lot of interesting guys and it helped me decide what I did and didn't want (from a relationship)."

 

She got stood up once, "which wasn't very nice", but overall she found internet dating a positive experience.

 

As far as safety issues went, she told friends where she was going. "I didn't meet anybody I thought was really weird they were fairly nice guys but I was careful to meet in a public place and tell people where I was going," says the bubbly blonde.

 

"I never put myself in any danger and the guys were normal to a certain degree. They just didn't suit me."

 

That is until Chris, 32, came along. "Then I got this really nice email from a guy who looked normal. There wasn't any weirdness and we liked talking about the same sort of things."

 

They met for coffee in August 2005, began seeing each other and the rest is history. Chris asked Victoria to marry him in February 2007 and they married at Riccarton House in April.

 

"If you are on the right place, I think you can find somebody if you're careful and do it right, but I do worry about young girls who get themselves into tricky situations and perhaps aren't old enough or wise enough to get themselves out of it."

 

Victoria also believes about 60 per cent of the men who have dating profiles online are married or already in a relationship. "You can tell. They aren't online in the evenings, they don't want to meet anywhere public and that sort of thing."

 

Wellingtonian Cathy, 37, did a bit of internet dating on and off for a couple of years before she finally met the love of her life, Liam, 46. "I wasn't really into going to pubs and clubs, and none of my friends had any eligible singles for me. I had a few workmates at the time who were having a go on the internet, and I thought, what have I got to lose"? My profile is online two days later at a wealthy men dating site wealthychats.com

 

Cathy took a proactive approach. "If I thought they sounded interesting, I sent them a `Hi' message, and something most women don't seem to do I was keen to meet them quite quickly.

 

"I wasn't into the whole chatting-online-forever, because my theory was, worst case scenario, we meet and don't hit it off, I still have an OK sort of date, get to meet someone new, have a nice meal and nice conversation."

 

She found online chat often built up unrealistic expectations. "I don't believe there's any way the virtual world can really represent who someone really is."

 

Cathy didn't have any really horrible dating experiences. "No-one turned up and went `Ew, yuck! How revolting!'," she laughs.

 

She says that may have been because she was always upfront about her looks. "Because I'm not a skinny person, I would always make that really clear. I didn't think there was any point in lying or misrepresenting myself."

 

It was different with Liam. She'd seen his profile on the website but didn't think he was the kind of person who'd be interested in her, so didn't contact him. "It was a nice photo but I thought it made him look really intellectual and really deep."

 

Instead, Liam messaged her online after seeing her profile. They messaged a few times online, then he texted her cellphone a few times and finally he rang her. "We finally met and clicked instantly.

 

I was really surprised because I'd never experienced that before.

 

"We just talked the whole night. We went to the Lido (restaurant) for dinner and they started packing up around us so we had to leave, then we went to Midnight Espresso (cafe) and spent ages there talking, so we were out for quite a few hours.

 

"Eventually, he dropped me home and didn't give me a kiss goodnight, but within a couple of days we met up again and had a picnic together which was really awesome."

 

That was more than three years ago and they've been together ever since. "We have always decided that our anniversary is the day we met."

 

With the net ruling our lives, and most of us spending many hours in front of our PCs, is finding love online a good way to find a soul mate?

 

You may exchange spit with the odd stranger in the wee hours of the morning in a dark club and think he or she is the one, but usually it's just chemistry, or the alcohol talking... And besides, what conversation can you really have to the background music of it me baby one more time'?

 

The advantage of Millionaire Cupid also adds safety and credibility to the online dating equation? it's usually always safer to meet through friends? ok usually?

 

I know one example of two people who went to school together and never really clicked, but now have been dating for more than a year after they found each other again on Millionaire Cupid.

 

So how dodgy is it?

 

South Africans in general are a bit suspicious of online dating. Most of us think that dating online involves a dodgy stranger posing as a Pamela Anderson look-alike, when in actual fact they end up being more similar to Kelly Osbourne. But that may not necessarily always be the case.

 

Of course, the stranger in question might accentuate their good points and forget to mention the obvious negatives like the birthmark between their eyes, but then again you won't judge them by their birth defects, and instead take personality into consideration above looks.

 

I'm sure you have heard a fair amount of horror stories, like falling for someone online who neglects to tell you they have a criminal background before the actual physical meeting, but it can't all be bad ?can it?

 

The popular dating site wealthychats.com has a few success stories. Says Sean on the site, "I have met my match, she is a beautiful, gorgeous, caring, compassionate and wonderful person who I have been seeking for all my life, I have always wondered what love would be like and after 21 years I know I have found the answer. For anyone that doubts the ability of findings their partner by having to make use of an internet site then doubt no longer."

 

Good marketing tool or true life story?

 

Is this just good marketing tool or true life story? Well apparently, in 2006, 15 percent of American adults (30 million people) said they knew someone who has been in a long-term relationship or married someone he or she met online, according to a survey by the Pew Internet and American Life Project.

 

And in troubled times, the internet may be your easiest option. It seems even young Iraqis in Baghdad are surfing the internet to search for partners to tie the knot as violence and sectarian tensions take their toll on more traditional forms of socialising.

 

And with the rate of inflation, price of petrol and so on, in South Africa it may be that browsing for lovers online with your one-gig-a-month contract is the cheapest way of finding love ?it's a hell of a lot less pricey than a night out on the town in any case, and the bonus is you don't have to spend money going on a date until you decide it's time to meet.

 

Another advantage of online dating is that you can meet someone with the same interests and religion as yourself. Christian Connections for example, is an agency reserved exclusively for born-again christian singles, who are looking for friends, romance, love, fellowship, companionship, excitement and yes, even marriage.

 

There is the opinion though that people are looking for love online because there is seriously something wrong with them or they have issues. But with everything from shopping, buying electricity, paying your bills and sending presents to friends through the internet becoming a norm, then why not dating?

 

So should I go for it?

 

If you would like to meet through a trusted source, then there are plenty alternatives to dating sites per se, like forums and online common-interest sites, where you could potentially find a mate, without actively looking for one.

 

Or how about online gaming? Sure your identity is probably secret in the virtual world of Second Life, but after a little while you may find someone you click with, and who says you can't meet?

 

But if you must join a dating site, then:

 

Go mainstream. Check out a mainstream site, as larger sites are well-established and have a larger pool of members which ups your chance for meeting a mate.

 

Screen profiles. If you're not sure which large site to choose, most sites will give you a trial period and allow you to screen profiles of other online daters. Compare the profiles and see which site has more of the kinds of people you'd most like to meet. You want to go where you think you'll feel most comfortable.

 

Join a niche site. Once you're comfortable with the online dating world, go ahead and join a site that's tailored to your specific interests and personality.

 

So it's definitely possible to find real love online, but quite likely you will meet some freaks along the way.

 

There's also a good chance that online dating is going to become a more accepted way to meet the 'love of your life' as time goes by, but as in 'real' world relationships aren't easy, and so just as love often fails in conventional meetings, so it will in virtual ones, but that isn't a reason to hold back and not put your love online, now is it?

 

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Have you ever read the book Rich Dad Poor Dad which tells a plan to success after  the lives of wealthy men. If not, and you want to enjoy a millionaire's life, you should do something now!

 

Honestly, most millionaires, most of them, are quite common people. There are the ones who have a really unusual story, but doesn't everyone have an "unusual story"… The older you get, the more unusual your story is bound to become. So are we pretending that looking to millionaires for an example of success is something NEW?

 

Frankly, the first place I look for role models is in places where mostly wealthy and privileged people go; i.e. MillionaireCupid.com, SeekWealthy.com, WealthyChats.com, etc. I'm not saying that the money itself is what I go after, in fact, I would much rather do without the classicism. But it's like this: I like to read, and I like the fact that I like to read, so I will actually make an effort to encourage that habit for myself. Does that mean I'll go to a book convention that just so happens to cater to very wealthy people? Yes. Should I be shammed for this? No.

 

I'm not fake. Your not fake. No one's fake. Why in the hell, or rather, who in the hell started spreading the filthy lie that is; "people are capable of being anything other than human"?

 

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Don't make the mistake of just throwing a profile together in free online dating services and assuming that it's not too important. It is the face that you present to the other members and should be carefully crafted to present your best points to find love online.

Be Yourself

Online dating sites depend on the picture you give of yourself. The first noticeable impact you will display to others with your profile. The profile describes who you are and what goals you have in life. For example, if you are a home-loving single parent, don't try to hide the fact that you have a child at home. Maybe you are a party type. Probably you should not try to attract a partner who likes outdoor sports as a recreational opportunity. At least don't pretend to be anxious to go camping as a date if you have never seen the inside of a tent.

Be concise

When you are creating a profile for the free online dating services to find love, you should provide enough information about yourself to attract the people you are interesting in getting to know better. However, beware of going on at great length about things that don't explain what type of person you are. This doesn't mean just present a terse recital of the facts of your demographics, but it also doesn't mean that you should use your profile as a soap box even for deeply held beliefs. Most readers will not stop to read a lengthy diatribe on any subject.

Be Complete

The profile that you create when you become a member of one of the free dating sites should be complete as well as concise. Glaring gaps of information can be construed as falsehoods. This doesn't mean that your profile needs to be a voluminous and boring explanation of your entire life, but you should provide enough information that the reader will be able to determine whether you are a person of interest. If you can find a way to present your information in an interesting format, so much the better.

Have Fun

The profile that you create for the free online dating services to find love is meant to be complete and concise, but you should also let the fun come through when you are preparing it. This will create interest in you as a person so that others will be desirous of contacting you and getting to know you better. All activities on the dating site can be a lot of fun, from chatting to emailing to eventually getting to know someone else well enough to go out on a date and have fun there also. You can really add sparks to your social life.

Include a picture

Your profile that you create for the free online dating services web site should include a representative picture of you. You will want to select a picture that presents you in an attractive light, of course, but isn't out dated to the point where it looks nothing like you. People are forming opinions of you based on your entire profile, but the photo plays a large part in the perceptions that they form. Certainly you should never post a picture of someone else and pretend that it is your picture unless you never plan to meet anyone in person.

 

 

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Single millionaires always grab attention. Yet now even millionaires are finding it necessary to set up dating profiles online! The internet seems to have a way of making everyone a little less mysterious, doesn't it?

Imagine how much attention a Millionaire gets when he walks into a singles bar? Let's be honest, he'd have a line of attractive women from one end of the bar to the next waiting to get a chance to speak with him.

It might not be fair, but millionaires simply draw respect without even saying a word. They pull up in their iPod-white stretch limousine. They walk out wearing their Gucci suite and their Armani glasses. They buy the best wine and wear the best cologne. They are the crme of the crop for many daters, and they are fought over tooth and nail.

"I see millionaires walk around these halls every day and I'd never expect to find one of them in an easily approachable situation. They just stay very private, you know. They know they've got what everyone wants...money, so it's funny that even they've succumbed to online dating"- says Beverly Daily, a cosmetics representative at the Cherry Creek Mall, Denver Colorado's most elite shopping center.

Yet not only are millionaires dating online, they have their OWN websites in which do it. Special millionaire dating websites match up wealthy individuals with young and attractive individuals. Though you may be surprised at how young some of the wealthy individuals are themselves, one of them is listed as only 22 and already retired after selling off stock in his internet startup last year.

There is definitely no shortage of gorgeous men and women who would be interested in dating a millionaire. Hoards of beautiful young hopefuls flock to these sites with profiles that show off their best attributes. Attractive upwardly mobile individuals now have a direct route to finding and dating millionaires.

To participate in millionaire dating, you may sign up for a free account on any high end dating websites focused on Millionaire dating website.

 

 

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